What is really fair?

The anti-Capitalists often speak of doing what is "fair". To them that would mean supplying a poor person with medical care, or a college degree. But if we agreed to do such a thing would it really be "fair" to everyone? I am 26 years old and still have another year to complete in college before I can settle into my career. If I choose to have a child now out of wedlock with my girlfriend, should someone who waited to have children after they were married and achieved their career goals be obligated to pay for the costs involved with raising my child? NO!! Of course not! But that's exactly what happens when Socialism occurs; the producers are forced to take care of the nonproducers (by paying higher taxes, does that sound "fair"?). Capitalism is the exact opposite; people learn how to take care of themselves and thus not burden society with extra costs incurred by their failures.